In the event there is somebody that by reading this gets identified with and, by default, offended, allow me to repeat the last words Rhett Butler told Scarlett O’Hara:
“Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn”
I was raised learning respect for others, and at the same time, learning not to lie. We try to go through life respecting others and not lying, but as we grow older, the whole thing gets more complicated. As we grow older, our interactions with others become more complex, and at the same time, more selective. And these interactions may be corresponded or not. For example, you may find people who likes but you may not like, and you may like people who may not like you.
So how can you apply honesty and politeness at the same time when that honesty involves something nasty on what you have to say?
Lets say, before, non-verbal communication or simply a fast rumor through third parties was enough to clarify where you did stand in an explicit group. Today, in a virtual environment where you actually are able to have friends whom you have never been in physical contact with, does it get easier or more complicated?
Thing is, lately I find myself really irritated with certain kind of people. People who are all over the place, who at first sight, you would think they are nice, because they shower you with compliments – and sure, everybody likes compliments – but when you least expected, they wait in every single corner for you find them there, and they get to be so annoying it feels like leaches. This is needy people with an agenda, people that look naive, but may be sharper that a kitchen knife – calling for attention in a subtle manner, interfering and collecting and sharing thoughts all over. These people will do anything to be in the loop, to be one of something, to be mentioned – and when you mention them, and maybe not in a good way, they show you their sheep eyes with a “me? But, I just did nothing but being nice…”
I know I suck at lying, so I don’t, but if I ever, for whatever reason, lied – you would absolutely know in a nano-second. So, what do I do? Do I confront these people? Don’t I? I know I am a polite person, but I am honest and have no problem speaking my mind out. I am kind and patient, but at the same time I may blow if bullshit starts reaching my toes. I am well aware also, that sarcasm is my second language; so do I keep using sarcasm until they get it? Do I just blurt it out?
I have the feeling it wouldn’t make a difference, anyway.