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Compromises

“You aint playing football, buddy. Whatever you want to do, it has to be indoors”

This I told MissAttitude when she started school. Being a single mom with a 6 year old and a baby, being in the middle of a bitter divorce and a cancer treatment, this was my only condition for her: I am NOT standing under the rain every Wednesday watching you kick a ball.

The selected activity turned to be karate. And last year, handball.

“I want to play handball.”

“Where do they play that?”

“Olsvikhallen”

A hall has a roof, I figure.

“Ok. Go for it.”

Nearly 5 years later, she holds a blue belt, she is grading again in a couple of weeks and she kicks ass with the handball.

My point?

This weekend I spent several hours watching her playing “beach handball”, not on a  beach, but in a field full of sand. It was not even 10 degrees and a north freezing wind. I am still shivering -and still wondering why I do agree to those things. And it all comes down on compromises. The compromises we parents do when we give them the freedom to choose and the compromise for us, parents to encourage, follow, comfort and  cheer them.

We come home and I vacuum at least 3 kilos of sand from the floor. I am exhausted…

LittleDumbass will start school this fall. I wonder what his deal breaker will be, but the conditions remain the same… My deal breaker is seeing MissAttitude cheeks reddened with the wind and the sun.

Fucking sand all over the place…

8 Comments Post a comment
  1. Lol. You complain. But one can hear easily the love and pride you have for your kids. 🙂

    I’m with you. I deliberately signed the kids up for no outdoor sports. Gymnastics and Tae Kwon do.

    June 4, 2012
  2. That was a wise and bold move, Momma! We chose soccer, golf and Tae Kwon Do. At seven, we run in the spring. I loathe the day he does choose football.

    June 4, 2012
    • Thing is here, the sucky weather, with rain most of the time… l would love for MissAttitude to play golf… del… an iron on her hands…. maybe not lol

      June 5, 2012
  3. Tom G. #

    My wife and I have an agreement. She takes my daughter to swimming and sits in the steamy, hot pool area, and I take my son to hockey, and sit in the cold refreshing ice rink.

    June 5, 2012
  4. @tom g, could you possibly take mine while you are at it? so far the princess had ballet (one block down) and trouble wants “hija!” (which for him means martial arts), but am waiting to see if I can talk either of them to join the other so there is only one drop off… wishful thinking

    June 7, 2012

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